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Creating An Emotional Connection Using Girlspeak

Do you want to find an emotional connection with women? Do you think it’s hard to find women who share your interests? Finding that special person is simple if you understand one thing–girls are people too.
A Lesson From Hugh
A few years ago, I saw an interview with Hugh Hefner. The interviewer said, “So, Hugh, what is the first thing you say to a woman – what’s your best pickup line? He literally had me hanging on the edge of my seat. Hugh looked at the guy, shrugged his shoulders, and said, “Hello, my name is Hugh.? The interviewer said, “That’s it? Hugh looked at him nonchalantly and said, “Yeah.?
While all of us can’t be Hef, we can learn his simple lesson. Girls are people. People like a good conversation.
But, what’s the first thing guys tend to do? Spit out the line they think Usher or Ryan Reynolds would use. You know the one about your six-figure income, master’s degree from Harvard, and BMW parked right outside. While these things will definitely attract a lot of women, it probably won’t lend itself to anything substantial.
Maybe you could say something really intellectual or cool. But, she will immediately see it for what it is–a pathetic attempt to be really intellectual or cool. Maybe you should tell her she’s pretty, like the 99 other guys she’s met since last Tuesday. How do you make a deep connection with girls?
Take Your Time
Unlike flirting, making a real connection takes time. It can not be manufactured over night. She may be attracted to you instantly. But, lose interest after two dates. Initially, she may not like you at all. But later on, she discovers that you work at a nonprofit organization helping children. Her perception of you changes. She’s found a connection.
Finding Her Style – Girlspeak
Women are from Venus and men are definitely from Mars. If you are sincere about developing an emotional connection, why is it so hard? Could you be missing something or focusing on the wrong thing? Chemistry starts with a mutual attraction. Attraction starts with a look or conversation.
There have been scores of books written on the subject. They have a common element. Girl’s brains are wired to bond on a wavelength called communication. Creating an emotional connection with a girl starts with talking. In the language of girlspeak, talking is the first step to bonding.
When she speaks, do you listen? I mean are you really listening? Do you hear her tell you about her likes, dislikes, hobbies, dreams, and goals to save the world? If so, then you should be able to discern what you should do next to make an love connection.
You could be doing all of the “right? things. But your efforts go unnoticed. In the book, The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman discusses the fact that people love differently. The five languages are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Don’t assume you know her style; most couples have to learn the style of their partner.
The next time you meet a girl, you should:
1) Be yourself,
2) Listen carefully, and
3) Take your time and learn her style. Then, watch the sparks fly. Enjoy the connection.
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