This idea is terribly wrong. Nor is love! But wait a second here, I have very deep feelings for that person and you are telling me I’m not in love? No, I’m telling you is not love. Is falling into a deep emotional love-like state called limerence. Limerence is a physiological imbalance, glandular natural defenses (not only am I doing this: there are certain hormonal changes that occur when chemical feel in love). But no matter how wonderful it feels, is not a relationship. Also, if you do not know or its good, the person you think you are in love with a person of fantasy in his mind, not a real blow your nose, reality television-watching humans. I think many people take their own emotions too seriously in terms of the civil decision decisions. If you have decompensated in love with someone you really do not have a relationship, it is a whim of one side that has nothing to do with finding a long life covenant partner. Does that sound cynical? This is not cynical: this is real.
Falling in love has nothing to do with conflict resolution, or compatibility, or the will of God, or parenting, or planning any future happiness. It’s just an emotional state (although, really big!). Do you have a place in romantic relationships? Absolutely. But that’s the point, it has a place in romantic relationships leading to the alliance. It is not a pact itself. Now this experience is real in mid-life and 20 years. Many of the middle-aged men are divided into limerence younger women – they feel more appreciated, understood and somehow more powerful. But this is not love. It limerence. For some in midlife is more difficult to achieve drawn especially if you are a single parent paying a mortgage on a special Vancouver.
But it happens and you should be aware of it. Also – does not mean not having limerence you do not have what it takes to mature romance. (If this is all a bit confusing, you should probably talk to your pastor or a therapist.) So why is this and what can be done? Usually happens in your life thought. Falling in love is connected directly to your thought life fantasy-romance. If you want to fall in limerence with someone, stop thinking about him or her (mostly sexual, but imagine how to live a father for their children also do). If you do not want to be in limerence, cultivate simplicity in his life he thought. If you have decompensated, the The best thing to do is forget about dating at all – is likely to be out of control in the first date. Even if you make a virginal manner is likely to be so engrossed with his emotions and you will not be able to relate to the other, except as an extension of their own desires.